We talked candidly about the trend of more widespread acceptance of older women and younger men in relationships in today’s society.
He had lost all his money in investments and these fears governed their entire combined money matters and leisure life. “It was like a timer was on the relationship with money attached to it”. In terms of time and management, it’s worth it to me.
In her current relationship, Carol manages the money, to a point. Our play time is in the clear, not paid for on credit or spent hiding from obligations.” Carol also cites better R & R.
It felt as if too many of these older men viewed the entire relationship as some kind of a competition. Carol spent too many years “keeping up the appearance” of second place.
If she achieved a benchmark or thought of something, hatched an idea or had a business success, her Significant Other couldn’t handle it and bruised her ego. “Most men my age and older are too competitive, younger men don’t try it.” With a younger man Carol feels that her successes are celebrated with her in the spotlight she’s earned, instead of just marked on the scoreboard.
Here are the “whys” I have come up with for why the older woman with younger man relationship will work out for some people.
Carol remarked that almost all her relationships in her 20’s and 30’s had been with men who were so competitive it exhausted her on too many levels.But if he wants to check out the museums and exhibits, more power to him.” Carol acknowledges the division of labor at home can be tricky.“But I saw too much of what I didn’t want to be in relationship to make someone else do it”.Just being allowed to feel happy about her work makes a better relationship.Carol spoke of dating and being in relationships with men who had long tails of child support, financial settlements, alimony, and earnings reductions due to past marriages and relationships.This put a damper and a leash on whomever she was dating. “I got tired of feeling like an outsider in my own relationships.