Throughout my many years of coaching men and women, I have found that the BIGGEST cause of BPD relationship failure is when the non-BPD fails to establish boundaries early on.
A BPD will make you feel like you’ve found the perfect partner – need to survive and succeed in this world!
I can’t stress how important it is to calm your feelings and think outside your head for a minute.
The more you read about BPD from credible sources such as myself, the more you’ll realize how important it is to Do you know what it means to have that edgy side to you that people simply respect and don’t want to mess with?
Bender in The Breakfast Club is an extreme example of what it means to be a jerk.
And it all starts from how we were brought up and what was fed into our mind as a young child.
This is why changing your mindsets is the key to success.
You must find that edgy side to you that isn’t afraid to push people around that get up in your grill.
I had a client email me about how he would just ignore and be silent on the couch when his BPD girlfriend would yell at him.
Dating someone with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) is not an impossible task despite what you often read about on the internet.
A relationship with a Borderline is highly possible (and fun) as long as you understand the key principles needed to make BPD relationships work.
Almost every single relationship involves some sort of honeymoon period where you’re both in a whirl of emotional highs. Love is a connection that builds over a long period of time. But it’s really due to these deeper mindset issues when we allow our feelings and emotions to carelessly flow free so early.