I would go out, almost every day, sometimes with a friend, and strike up conversations with girls. For the first few months I procrastinated and did nothing. Whether that be making more eye contact, speaking louder, learning how to relax in social situations, or something else.
If you’re too shy to date, check out my tips for overcoming fear of rejection. And, more good news is that there are resources that will help increase your confidence – such as Here’s what one reader says: “The man I like is in a relationship,” says C. “Since I don’t want to be the third wheel, I’ve accepted the fact.
I’m a freelance writer who gets rejected ALL the time – and let’s face it: rejection is rejection, whether it’s on a date or at work. I admit that I am a bit (too much) shy when it comes into getting to know people.
This is similar, though different to the last point. In business, every rejection leads you closer to an acceptance of your offer.
A guy called Jason Comely invented rejection therapy. And the same philosophy can be applied to overcoming fear of rejection in social situations.
So when you put pressure on yourself to do well all you do is make yourself really anxious. I ended up approaching girls far more often and doing much better. Next time you feel anxious about getting rejected, tell yourself that the only thing that matters is that you put yourself out there.
You create a type of performance anxiety in yourself. And even if you do get rejected, allow yourself to feel proud for acting with courage in spite of fear.
Originally, rejection therapy started out as a game for businesspeople and salespeople to grow their businesses. Here’s how his website describes “rejection therapy“: to be rejected. There’s nobody in the world who has any success without also facing failure and rejection.
The rule is you MUST be rejected by another human being. No other outcome will meet the requirement of Rejection Therapy. So the idea is to aim for the rejection, and the success will come as a byproduct. And rejection is the “sorting mechanism” that allows people to find those they are compatible with.
When people feel rejected or left out, they often describe their feelings with physical pain words, complaining of “hurt feelings” or “broken hearts.” Our research has shown that feeling socially excluded activates some of the same neural regions that are activated in response to physical pain, suggesting that social rejection may indeed be “painful.” – Naomi Eisenberger Associate Professor Ph. One of the things I read early on in my journey overcoming social anxiety was this saying: When you get rejected, you should be grateful.